Have you ever gotten angry and lashed out at people, animals, or even inanimate objects? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us! But have you ever wondered why we do this, only to regret it later?
There are various ways people deal with anger. It is a natural emotion that everyone experiences. However, some individuals express their anger through frustration, while others prefer to keep it bottled up and complain to others.
Then, some people believe that they should never feel angry and suppress their emotions.
And finally, some individuals remain quiet while slowly building up their anger until it eventually explodes. It is common for people to experience all three ways of dealing with anger.
Is It Normal To Feel Angry?
It’s perfectly normal to feel angry sometimes. Anger is a powerful emotion that serves an essential purpose. In fact, it exists to balance out our other emotions. Have you ever seen the Pixar movie “Inside Out” from 2015? If you haven’t, it’s definitely worth watching.
The film does a great job of illustrating how our emotions work together and what can happen when we try to suppress them. Plus, it’s a fun and entertaining way to learn more about the topic.
Learn To Identify Why?
It is quite natural to feel some degree of pain, anger, frustration, or irritation at the beginning. However, it is essential to learn how to identify and deal with these emotions sooner. It is crucial to acknowledge that these emotions are an inherent part of our human experience. By changing the way we think about things, we can prevent negative emotions from persisting and becoming more intense.
It’s clear that this narrative isn’t helpful in most situations. Instead, it tends to provoke anger and unhappiness and worsen relationships. Once it takes root in our minds, it keeps spinning around for an extended period, possibly for hours, days, or even weeks, causing persistent emotional wounds to reopen again and again.
In the past, had a lot of overwhelming anger. I lived my whole life camouflaging my emotions. I was shy and raised by a mother who had narcissism personality disorder, and I had to learn since very young to keep my feelings to myself.
Then, with life experience and military service, it just came to accumulate more trauma until I literally blew out of proportion. I had to learn to control my anger, but first, I had to know why I was angry. It can be challenging if you also have other mental health disorders like anxiety.
Today, I’m feeling much better about managing my anger. I’m using some helpful tools to keep myself in check and ensure that my emotions don’t get the better of me. I’m really proud of the progress I’ve made so far, and I’m looking forward to continuing to improve my anger management skills.
We all have a choice when it comes to dealing with anger. We can either stick to the same old patterns … or try something new. So, let’s take a deep breath and see what else we can do, shall we?
