We all make excuses.
Excuses we make not to take responsibility or not take action in certain situations. So, we rationalize the actions we carry in our daily lives.
“I do not have money.”
“I cannot do it because I have mental health issues.”
“I don’t have time.”
“I cannot change. I am who I am.”
So why excuses?
So, what are the excuses?
Excuses are behaviors that blame our life circumstances on an external force. In other words, we blame something outside of our control to justify why we are not doing something.
For example, “I want to lose weight, but I don’t have time to go to the gym or money to pay for a membership,” or “I should have pursued a career in engineering by now, but I have personal problems and cannot invest in a degree at the moment.”
This behavior distracts us from achieving our goals. It’s easier to blame external factors instead of recognizing that the reason for not going to the gym or not enrolling in school is within us. We are at fault.
We tend to favor our comfort zone and avoid the effort of going to the gym or school. It’s easier to stick to old habits than to push our boundaries.
Frequently, the goals we set are not powerful enough to truly inspire us. They fail to motivate us to push and make the necessary changes. This could be because the goals are not important enough or because we are focusing on the wrong reasons.
For instance, when someone aims to lose weight, they might imagine one of the beautiful young skinny actresses as their main source of inspiration rather than focusing on exercise, diet, or health reasons. This can cause the motivation to fade and lead to making excuses to give up.
Albert Einstein
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
So what now?
So, have you questioned yourself about the excuses you’re making and how they are holding you back from progress? Are you achieving your life goals?
I often procrastinate like anyone else, and sometimes it takes time to push through it. I hear your excuses, but they won’t solve your problem, and you’ll still have to deal with it sooner or later. I’ve learned to handle my situations by prioritizing what is important to me and what is not. I could lose weight and become that skinny girl, but I’m not interested in being slim. What interests me is leading a healthy life.
I also embrace new stages in my life, for example, moving abroad and settling in a new country. Settling in – Always Live Loud.
As I get older, life changes, and I change along with it. I eagerly take on new projects like moving abroad, going back to school, improving my photography skills, and developing my blog. I seek out what interests, motivates, and brings me joy. I prioritize and pursue them unwaveringly.
And even if I fail?
That’s okay — I glean knowledge from my failures. Who cares what others say? Failing doesn’t signify weakness; it doesn’t diminish your worth as a person. It means you are making an effort and learning from your mistakes. It builds resilience and makes you stronger.
Here is a thought — Your life will not change if you do not change your attitude. I know life sucks sometimes, and we all know that. We all deal with it. See the positive in things. If you have a positive attitude, you’ll beat the excuses. Just think about it. You’ll see things with an open mind if you have a positive attitude.
Take responsibility for your situation and own your solution. It’s ok to fail. Failure leads to success.
My father used to say, “There is always a solution; only when you die, there is none.”
Set a goal that inspires you, set your priorities, and be accountable.
Then, after all, it’s been said that if you come up with other excuses, then reread this blog. Again and again.
Ellen DeGeneres
“It makes a big difference in your life when you stay positive.”
Some reading you might like: Are You Living a Life of Endless Excuses? Here’s How to Stop! (iqmatrix.com), Excuses | Psychology Today New Zealand
